January 30, 2006
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A Million Little Pieces
by James FreyFact: The American Psychiatric Association began to use the term “disease” to describe alcoholism in 1965, and the American Medical Association followed in 1966. The disease concept was originally applied to alcoholism and has been generalized to addiction to other drugs as well. The “disease of addiction” is viewed as a primary disease. It has these symptoms – physical withdrawal when the drug is removed, increasing tolerance to any drug the longer the body uses it, and a history of being terminal unless remission is achieved. In spite of this information, there are many who still feel that addicts are bad weak people who should “Just Say No.” During the recent hubbub about this book, I saw two female newscasters discussing the confrontation by Oprah of the author in which righteous indignation beamed from Oprah’s eyes while Frey looked like the proverbial deer caught in her headlights. One newscaster said she had to turn it off, that it was too painful to watch this public flogging. The other said with a grin, “I enjoyed every minute.” For me, it wasn’t quite that clear a reaction. I’d begun reading the book before the whole shockeroo exploded and, after 21 years of Recovery in 12-step programs and approximately 1100 meetings where I’ve heard basically the same stories over and over again, I was finding the actual treatment center descriptions totally believable. I myself didn’t go through treatment but I’ve been into many of them over the years to bring meetings in to people who can’t come out. I must say the part about the dental work with no anesthetic didn’t seem likely – what I would have expected was novocaine during the surgery but then sent away with non-narcotic pain medication afterwards. Frey has apparently fessed up to embellishing details. I could care less if he vomited three times or 850 times. What speaks to me so far in his telling is the sense of hopelessness, rage, exhaustion, and despair which every addict I’ve ever known has to reach before he or she can turn a corner and choose life over death. And frankly, most go ahead and die. That’s how powerful the disease is. And most who begin recovery relapse and die. That’s how powerful the disease is too. I’ve lived in the same city and gone to the same meetings for all these 21 years and today I see only a handful of the dozens of people who began their journey back to life when I did. Oh sure, some of them moved away and some of them just don’t go to meetings anymore (though that is the #1 reason everyone always gives when they return from a relapse) and some of them died of other causes. This particular addict decided to write a book and called it a memoir. It’s clearly not a work of literature by a Harvard graduate or Shakespeare. He got hooked up with a publishing company that apparently in all the time they worked together did not have the foresight to fact check such things as dental work without anesthetic. What were they thinking??!! It was their job to know about legalities. So it gets published and the Mighty Oprah likes it and finds it a tale of redemption. That gets it the attention of a web site whose job it is to bring the mighty down – kind of like the paparazzi do. That leads to the “public flogging.” Now there may be a class action lawsuit. In my humble opinion, there have probably been countless memoirs that could also have been fact checked to death and come up short of rigorous honesty (which by the way is one of three principles drummed into every new recovering addict’s head – honesty, openmindedness, willingness). James Frey wasn’t able to do rigorous honesty to the satisfaction of Oprah or probably most folks who’ve never been addicted to anything (like Oprah to food, for example) or known or loved or grieved an addict in their lives. The gist of his journey is an old familiar story for me, and I hope in the end it’s a good story for him. As for Oprah, well…….
Deep Thought: ““If you ever crawl inside an old hollow log and go to sleep, and while you’re in there some guys some and seal up both ends and then put it on a truck and take it to another city, boy, I don’t know what to tell you.”
Today I am grateful for: Storm drains
Guess the Movie: “You run one time, you got yourself a set of chains. You run twice you got yourself two sets. You ain’t gonna need no third set, ’cause you gonna get your mind right.” Answer: Cool Hand Luke, 1967.
Winner: RnBoW_SPOT.
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Comments (26)
I believe addiction is an awful disease that is a life long battle for those who have it. Someone I know and love dearly is a reocevering alcoholic who almost lost everything due to has addiction, so I know a little about it.
I think what irritates me about the whole situation is that James Frey has been lying with the blessing or rather the encouragement of the publisher. Nan Talese (the editor) got ahold of it and decided to sell it as a memoir. I believe James Frey embellished his book because he originally intended it to be a novel. That would really explain the whole mess. Here is an article at Slate about what Nan Talese knew and when she knew it.
http://www.slate.com/id/2135069/
I think Nan Talese should be the person who owes the people that bought that book an apology.
If I write my drug recovery story and change myself to a man and add a mother to the jail scene and make myself live somewhere else, does it count as a memoir?
Oprah bugs the hell out of me.
I’ve been clean for 23 years. I had to stop going to AA because I started hearing things about myself from other members who didn’t know who I was. There were other problems too, but that was sort of the last straw. I have, however, watched it work for many other people and I certainly recommend the meetings without reservation to anyone who asks for help. I’ve never had the slightest urge to return to my drug of choice even though the physical craving is still there and I still have “bottle dreams”, waking up thinking I’ve used again. The nightmare part of it is still too clear in my brain and outweighs euphoric recall by tons. Jails, institutions and death – I got too close to all three.
I go along with the disease concept to a certain point, but as an addictions counselor I began questioning the premise. Thanks for a very interesting post.
T
lying appears to be an addiction also. Oprah was protecting her reputation and should have bulldogged him…
i don’t like reading books i feel like i can’t believe. with all the other lies and embellishments he tells in the story, i’m not sure i’d believe anything else. i can’t help but wonder if he even wrote it.
That’s the problem with print…it really needs to be accurate in order to be considered biographical or fact. People will fact check it eventually…
The movie is Cool Hand Luke
Yay, Cool Hand Luke is right!
His story would have been wonderful if he hadn’t acted like he was in jail for three months. This is important. He blames being jailed for not being able to prevent his lover’s suicide. When he admitted to lying about that, because really he wasn’t in jail, he was packing his car, that just did me in. I thought Drinking: A Love Story to be a great memoir of addiction. I thought MLP was too; but now I think it’s sad.
i took a substance abuse class a couple months ago and i thought i heard that they actually do surgery without anesthetics. i could’ve heard wrong though. if it’s true, i can’t even imagine how painful that would be.
Addiction is a disease but for money reasons it is now seen to be self inflicted. It has been a fight between mental health and alcohol and drug for years. This book is of no interest to me but how alcoholism and drug addiction are viewed is, Judi
While I’m convinced that alcoholism is a disease, it took many years for me to come around to that point of view, and part of my brain still wants to think of its victims as weak rather than sick.
I only peripherally heard about this whole weird thing. For some reason, I didn’t like the author because he seemed against meetings? Did I get that wrong? But I also seemed to get the sense that Oprah was out of line. I dunno. I like what you wrote though, more personally revealing than some posts and taking a stand. Good for you.
thanks for the call
You don’t know me…but I do see a few faces in your comments that are friends of mine, but… the point to my comment… without proper introduction?
You said so many things in this entry that I couldn’t put words too. I have never been an addict, but I have lost a brother (39 years old) and a sister (46 years old) to addiction. No one understands what ALL go through in a dysfunctional family such as this. You have to live it to know it. But… my worry about all this hubabaloo about “the book”…
As you say, some parts are real and honest. You had to live it to know it… and I think he did. But if even a single solitary addict (of any drug of choice) was helped here. Found rehab, or meetings or a counselor, or simply the strength to live one more day… then the fictional non fiction had a purpose and served it. None of this would be happening if Oprah’s name wasn’t attached to it. Is it her fault? No. Is it the publishers for not checking? Maybe. Is it Frey’s? I can’t find it in my heart to pass judgment on him. He is human like the rest of us…. and we get through… sometimes by exaggeration… sometimes… by hiding behind a darker story … but truth lives beneath all this hype. And again I say, if it helped even one person… then how can that be anything but good.
Thanks for listening, addressing this so well, and I hope you don’t mind the “barging in”.
warmest thoughts and best wishes for continued strength,
SA
Well, I haven’t read the book but I hope that Oprah’s lashing didn’t whip that guy off the wagon. I wonder if she’s ever told a lie.
I read the book…..and saw the interviews (before and after the public flogging)OK..so I think that he made a mistake about calling in a memoir…..James Frey should have stated this…but hey we all make mistakes. I have no doubt that he went through all the hell that he writes about in his book as “unfactual” as some of the incidents might be……Oprah doesn’t like to be wrong….hence all the hullaballoo. But I understand her point, too…it is her livelyhood, her reputation, that is at stake, and if I were in her shoes I may have done the same thing. At least Mr. Frey came to the table……I felt for him….and for sure if I ever write a memoir I am going to be very careful…..
hmmm….sounds familiar….there seems to be a lot of “tale telling” within our government and our media right now….
Addiction is a terrible thing and I have been on all sides of it. Currently, I have two brothers who are and have been addicted to… gambling, alchohol, methadone, crack, crank, prescription drugs etc. Frey may honestly not remember what he did half the time and with a little encouragement could say, “yeah, that might of happened, I really don’t know.” That is the nature of the beast, the black outs, the excuses, the justifications, the wasted money, and the family and friends left not knowing what to do. I missed the Oprah episode, but she does seem to be out of touch if what you said is true. Food is as you say an addiction as well, and anyone can see she has had struggles with this addiction. I have struggled with food all my life in one form or another, either two thin or two heavy. I have a book in my life, but if were to publish, it would be published as a work of fiction. Frankly, however I find it to be a bore, because addiction is so rampant that their is not hardly anyone touched already dealing with it, who wants to read about it? Thanks, Lionne for the very thought provoking and insightful post. You really said a lot. I read your post at work and couldn’t wait to get home and respond. Xanga is censored at my work. lol.
Thanks for dropping by. I agree, I still like the gritty, somewhat-abstract stuff alot more.
Hi & thanks for visiting my wee blog! I plan to spend some time here at yours as it’s just lovely. Peace, Kumiko.
very interesting. i accidentally stumbled on the oprah episode and had to turn it off. too painful. i think it’s pretty cut and dry now. the guy lied about some things, and now everyone knows. end of story. of course people should be truthful in a memoir. it’s too bad that we have to be reminded.
but reading about the topic reminded me of how much my brother hates oprah. he says she makes everything overly dramatic and talks too much about helping people when she’s really just helping herself. i don’t typically watch her.
anyway, just popped by to say hi.
I’m an ACOA, still battling a lot of my own demons – the legacy of the disease. So for me, AA is a Very Good Thing. I’m troubled that Mr. Frey seems anti-AA. I almost take it as a sign he’s not reached bottom yet. Of course I realize that’s only for him to say, not me, but since he’s made himself & his disease public I figure I can comment. His attitude seems consistent with someone in denial. For awhile I was worried that alcoholics who were standing on the line might be swayed by his opinions about AA & choose as he did, thus missing the opportunity to get well. Then HP whispered to me that I was forgetting to trust THEIR HP (& Mr. Frey’s) to take care of them. It now occurs to me that to a certain degree, I can talk to other peoples’ HP, pray for them to be held in grace & protection until they find help & this would not be interfering in their Karma, just adding my voice. Someone I love is a recovering alcoholic & tells me that sometimes you can’t believe, but it can be enough in the moment to believe that someone else does. When I heard these words last week, my heart was moved. Maybe that’s one of our jobs in Earth School – to believe for each other. So this is what I’m doing for Mr. Frey & those I formerly feared would be adversely affected by his book.
Peace, Kumiko
I didn’t see this on television and I haven’t read the book, so it’s hard to comment.
Enjoy your day.
thanks for propping by. i dont stand by any additional winter this year either….nice site. i will check back in. have a great week.
I mean no offense to you, Lionne, and I know that addiction is so difficult that it controls the lives of millions of people in the United States – but it is not a disease, in the pure meaning of the term. Perhaps it must be treated as a disease, but it is not a disease.
Also, lying is an addiction, but it is not a disease, either. Lying is a character flaw. We make concious decisions when we stop and think to ourselves, “Ok, do I tell a lie and cover up this thing that is hard for me to face, or do I tell the truth and face it?”
Because we don’t want to face our demons and frailties, and because doing so is difficult and embarrassing and painful – that is no justifiable nor moral reason to choose to lie about anything.
I fight that battle on a daily basis, but I have to choose not to lie, because the burden of lying to cover up my other lies, perpetually, is too much for me to bear.
Respectfully – John
I just wanted to make sure that you know I respect you, and that I know that I may be totally wrong, too. Ok?
I too read the book before the big hullaballoo… and I also found some parts of the book too incredible to be true.. but overall, I found it a very enlightening look at someone who is struggling to beat an addiction and stay alive. Oprah was caught with her shorts down so she flogged the guy on national television …sort of Inquisitionish to me .. especially with all the other lying going on in the media and the government ..I personally would love to see someone come forward to talk about the lies Oprah may have told, unless she herself is the perfect human being. I turned her off years ago .. because as much as she brings some subjects to light ..in the end its always about her and what She thinks and the fact that she also seems to consider herself an expert on Everything…I don’t care what she thinks .. I want to know what the Guest thinks.. so Click.. off she goes ! I am praying that this episode does not lead Frey back into a cycle of self abuse .. xoxoxoooo
I appreciate your refreshing point of view. Unfortunately, it is the people who have never been there who are the greatest critics. How I wish I could be in their arrogant shoes!
Im coming in late on this discussion. I lost respect for Oprah a while back, and this episode of public humiliation and shaming sealed the deal for me. Oprah is nothing more than a brand name to me now.